How to pick the right partner? at the beginning you don't.............
Want to know the worst cliché ever coined? Opposites attract. Like most things that are false, it has an element of truth. When people have enough in common, the elements of difference add a certain excitement to things. But overall, who is attractive to you? Whom do you want to spend time with? Are you looking for someone who disagrees with you on everything, has different interests, likes to sleep when you want to play, and likes to play when you want to sleep? You want to be with people who are like you and yet unique.
Anthony Robbins
"What most people call falling in love is really falling in pattern," he says. "Relationships are about getting our own needs met, often on an unconscious basis. In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow."
Paul Cutright, author of You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think
I think it would be impossible to live with someone who disagree with all my beliefs. That i am sure. However i can understand that people from a surviving tradition should pick a partner that completes us and in a sense is different. That should be in our genes. When someone is very tall he or she usually picks someone smaller. If i am a aggressive person i better find someone who can appease me. I believe in Genes and life offer us some problems (fortunately for me not many) so we must choose someone that helps us navigate these problems wisely.
Even if we feel close with someone (even love that person) if that someone is a big pack to carry on our backs that relationship will not endure.
When we met someone that makes a spark we choose him or her because we are in love, however in a short period of time after we get to know each other this phrase is very important and decides the future of the relationship
In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow
At the beginning we don't choose a partner it's something that happens it's chemistry. But sooner or later we will try to find someone with a future. So in the end we choose who to keep.
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